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Regaining Self Confidence

My confidence had plummetted these last few years as my weight went up, my friendships fell and of course, being too bloody hard on myself all the damn time! I think at some point I just gave up? I stopped exercising and eating healthily, which is all on me, but I still wonder why that happened. Friendships haven’t necessarily ended or gone sour, it’s just that we all have to walk down our own paths which can sometimes mean leaving one another, and that’s okay. It’s good! It means we’re progressing! And seeing them thrive in whatever they’re doing always brings a happy smile to my face! But of course, I still can’t help but miss it.

I’ve taken many theoretical blows in terms of events in my life. I like to think they’ve made me a stronger person, but at the same time, I think I still hold a lot of it against myself, even the external things I couldn’t possibly control or have blame for.

So how does one build themselves up again after taking a few stumbles?

Wear what you love

What I’ve found with losing self-confidence is that I stopped wearing what made me happy and what I felt more like myself in. Instead, I wore baggy clothes that seemed easy to hide in and didn’t take the time to take pleasure in picking out outfits and dolling myself up a bit. I think that just made things worse, and these days I’ve tried to slowly put myself back into the clothes I love to wear. I’ve started to wear more makeup because I love to wear it! And make more of an effort with my appearance and this has slowly made my confidence rise. I’ve still got a ways to go but it’s a big step in boosting that self-esteem!

Speak your own mind

Slipping into trends and conforming toย what is perceived to be the most popular at the time is what I’ve noticed myself doing a lot! It’s perfectly fine when I actually like the things that everyone else does, but it’s when really, I don’t find it appealing but still follow it. I’ve been a lot more worried aboutย not fitting in and that has helped with losing what I’m really like. It is important to try and stay true to yourself, even if that may not seem the most trendy! Being happy is the most important thing and I’ve been trying to just say what I really think rather than agreeing to avoid disagreement.

Take a day to pamper yourself

There are always many little reasons to not take a pamper day for yourself. I’ve left it for so so long because I’d feel guilty for not doing coursework, not doing this or that and that just puts your happiness on a downward going slope. Take a day. Use your favourite products and have the bubbliest bath and paint your nails pretty colours! Do you for a day every so often and it’ll be a lot harder to lose who you really are and what you want.

Show yourself

Take photos of yourself! And look at them with pride. I’ve seen so many people being afraid of putting up too many selfies or body shots because they’re worried about their appearance and they’re stunning! There’s so much pressure these days to look a certain way but honestly, when you take photos of yourself, post them on your social media or your blog or whatever you want and show yourself off! You deserve it!


What tips do you guys have when it comes to regaining self-confidence?


13 thoughts on “Regaining Self Confidence

  1. Such a beautiful and necessary post.
    i can truly relate to this. I’ve gone up in weight recently, but feel like am getting it slightly back under control. Its not an easy journey as it comes down to a lot of of it being a process in your brain trying to stop the changes. But it’s rewarding too. I agree that you should wear what you feel makes you look pretty! It’s important to ‘do you’ and that also request that you speak your mind. I’ve often offered my unpopular opinion. When i told someone i’m losing weight and they respond with: but you really don’t need to. You’re good like this – I tell them to stop assuming that this is the reason i do it. And I explain that my family has a line of diabetes and heart diseases. – to make them understand.
    I feel like I should blog this and come out to create awareness about the effect of these comments. It just doesn’t help when people say stuff like that and it’s nothing less than word vomit because they just don’t know how to respond to it.
    All of your tips are great.
    i try to use affirmations daily such as : I am beautiful!
    It helps when you repeat things like this to yourself.
    Rose –


    1. Thank you for your advice! I really do need to work on defending what I truly believe and the reasons I do things rather than simply nod and smile haha xx I’m glad you enjoyed my post ๐Ÿ˜€ xx


  2. Love this! Especially having a day to pamper yourself, itโ€™s so important and yay for the bubbliest of baths ๐Ÿ˜. I always love seeing your photos pop up on my Instagram Jennie, your hair is super cool and you always look gorgeous ๐Ÿ’–. Keeping being you, you are awesome ๐Ÿ˜˜ xx

    Bexa |


  3. These are all really great points! I’ve been trying to give myself more of a pamper day now and then – especially when I get to the point where I just feel a mess inside and out and it’s amazing the difference it makes. Great post!


  4. Self confidence is a really hard thing to gain and am easy thing to lose! These are some great tips and ideas for people to follow when they are struggling. Its wonderful that you have taken the steps to regain your own self confidence!


  5. This is lovely and so important! Going through this sort of learning curve is really difficult but so key and Iโ€™ve been going through a very similar thing!! My biggest tip was spending time alone, taking myself out for coffee or something and just being okay with me. Beautifully written post ๐ŸŒป


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